Comparison is the Thief of Joy

Cam Caldwell
2 min readMay 9, 2023
Photo by negar nikkhah on Unsplash

It’s important to run your own race and not compare yourself to the next person.

We’re all in different cars…going different speeds…toward different destinations.

For a lot of us, a setback feels like our car broke down and we have to be towed back to the starting line.

If all you’re worried about is how fast everyone else is moving forward, then you’re cheating yourself.

You’re missing out on the opportunity to study all the bends and curves of the track.

These are the lessons.

You’re being set back because there was something along the way that you needed to learn, but didn’t.

What you should realize is that while you are getting towed back, you’ve been gifted with the time to study all the potholes, the deep corners, and the roadblocks that slowed you down the first time.

And little do you know, you’re getting towed back to the starting line to go pick up a faster and more balanced car.

But you’ll miss it all and feel extremely terrible about your circumstances if you focus on what everyone else is doing.

A mental framework that keeps me focused is to stop thinking about my career and life as a race to the finish.

My goal is to stay behind the wheel as long as possible and enjoy the entire ride.

I’ll pick up friends along the way, and I’ll drop some off.

Sometimes I’ll pull over and help jumpstart someone else’s battery.

Occasionally I’ll join in a quarter-mile race, but I don’t get down on myself if someone has a better car.

I’m just grateful to be in the race, so I’ll make sure I have a damn good time while I’m here.

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Cam Caldwell

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